There is value in becoming comfortable with solitude, or alternatively, getting accustomed to being alone. If you can't find comfort on your own, it might suggest a range of underlying emotional issues. Many of us use the company of others as a coping mechanism, distracting ourselves from deeper issues. We often struggle with solitude, frequently seeking connections with others to feel secure. Whatever your reason, you're not alone, and it's important to understand there's nothing wrong with being isolated in your own world. In fact, isolation can have the opposite effect of what our minds fear it will.

Over the past two years, my life has completely transformed. I went from living a seemingly perfect dream life, which I convinced myself was flawless, to realizing it was far from ideal, as the universe had different plans for me. These plans required significant adjustments, solitude, and isolation—changes that were uncomfortable and led me to question many decisions and ignore warning signs along the way. The most significant change during my life crisis in 2022 was my partner and I deciding to part ways for our mental health and overall well-being. Right after getting engaged, welcoming our baby girl, and moving into our first home, everything unraveled. I had to choose between our relationship and my own sanity and happiness. Ultimately, choosing yourself becomes necessary for true emotional transformation. Prioritizing peace, sanity, and both mental and physical well-being takes precedence. I had to confront this reality and the bittersweet loneliness many of us often try to avoid. Why do we do that?

Isolation isn't necessarily negative, and this is what I've discovered on this journey. Experiencing my own reality without a co-star has been the most freeing chapter of my life. I've embarked on a path of self-discovery, revealing my true passions. I've dedicated time to my goals and dreams, focusing on myself so I have enough to give to others who reciprocate. I'm able to be there for my children as a healthy, active parent in the way they need.

I don't want to create a false impression that this journey of self-discovery has been easy; it has been quite challenging. Discipline and resilience have been my most valuable tools throughout this process. It's crucial to stay disciplined and resilient once you commit to yourself, just as you would in any other relationship. This is a commitment to oneself! When you decide to heal intentionally and let go of people, places, situations, and even activities that don't bring fulfillment, you may feel isolated. You'll face tests of your strength to uphold your boundaries. There will be lonely moments when you want to give in, but remember, you're not alone; you're only human. Still, you are stronger than you realize. This is when your discipline will be tested; do you have what it takes to prioritize yourself?

Are you not prepared for peace? Are you not ready to reach your highest potential? Don't you deserve happiness? The emotional struggle has imprisoned your mind, and it's time to liberate yourself. Remember, solitude during your healing process can result in deep self-discovery and personal development. Being alone emphasizes the value of authentic connections that nourish the soul. In your self-healing journey, or whatever you call this phase of your life, imagine the life you wish to build going forward, aiding in setting intentions and goals for your future path.

Although isolation may initially be difficult, it serves as a strong catalyst for personal growth and self-exploration. Wishing you the best in this significant chapter...

-The Vixen